Chemistry v Security

Am I betraying myself?

I know the sugar daddy is falling for me. And the thing is, he is lovely. He is more thoughtful, kind, and protective than any of the other men I have dated in my past. He sends me flowers with little notes that he misses me. He adores his cats and I can’t resist a man who loves animals. On occasion he surprises me with a witty sense of humor and is decent looking (Okay, average but our children would be beautiful.) The sex gets the job done so to speak. I’ve orgasmed every time but one. On paper, he is ideal.

The chemistry however is lacking.

I’ve felt strong chemistry twice in my life. I believe in the idea of soul mates but that you have thousands of them. The first was with the guy I lost my virginity to and although he is a bit of an asshole and ghosted me a week later it took me more than two years to get over. We still snapchat on occasion but I’ve seen his less charming side. We have the same sense of humor, both ride horses, study the same degree, and are pretty sexy people. My longterm (ex) boyfriend always knew in the back of my mind I was thinking about the virgin thief.

The second time was in September and took me completely by surprise. I agreed to meet up with Asian Bae for dinner and actually almost skipped it as I had suffered a sexual assault earlier that week but as he flew to my city to see me went through with it. I wasn’t originally physically attracted to him; he was 33 and well, more asian than I was used to but after talking for three hours at dinner I kind of not accidentally missed my train back and stayed over at his artsy boutique hotel… He and I both felt as though we had known each other for years and later when he booked a transatlantic trip just to see me I truly thought that he could be The One. Jeez, even as I type this I feel a tear in my eye. I am too soft! I never got tired discussing anything with him; politics, philosophy, opera, biology, and sitcoms. He laughed at me when I told him my feelings after he started seeing someone else at the same time. I think of him every day despite trying to convince myself that he is immature and suffers from some profound personality flaw. He also has a thing for Scandinavian artists. Enough about him though.

Maybe I only feel chemistry with shitty guys? Both are kind of players like me but I think I am entering that stage when I want security. Can chemistry grow? The daddy treats me like a rare and beautiful flower. Is it betraying my self awareness if after these beautiful attractions I reject that and settle for safety? I don’t know. But right now my dissertation is more important.

Sincerely yours,

AFCG

Procrastination

Alright guys.

I have to admit something. Every time someone asks me how my dissertation is going I LIE. Or at least change the subject. I am doing an economics dissertation and have quite a bit of field work to conduct but I have not been on top of things. It is due in April.

My main problem is meeting with my dissertation. For some reason I put it off (from the beginning of the year) and have YET to meet with him. I keep telling myself I will “tomorrow” but then I come up with excuses. Like being unwell or needing sleep or that I should get some more work done on it. But I just keep getting more stressed! I also feel like admitting this to someone (like y’all) might help me mobilize so maybe tomorrow. Maybe tomorrow will be the day I INTRODUCE myself to my advisor.

Wish me luck.

Maldives!!!

So

Next Friday I am jetting off to the Maldives! Has anyone been to COMO Cocoa Island? Decent for a third date eh? OMGOMGOMG I can hardly even wait!

Daddy asked if it was ok to only fly first class on the way there because the premium cabins were full on the way back. I of course put up a fuss (as a joke) but as he is asian he doesn’t always get the humor and I had to explain. Also, he bought me the newest iPhone “to make me a more productive citizen.” lolol

Also I am on antibiotics for an ear infection. I don’t think it will spoil my chance to dive in the Indian Ocean.

I will photograph my outfits for you in a bit.

To Do:

Bikini waxing

tanning for base

diet like cray

get my dissertation on the road!

 

Yours,

AFCG

The Missionaries

I was walking back from the gym this evening after some box fit. Box fit is where you picture hitting people you hate repeatedly while toning your hot bod. It is a good activity to do if you have a breakup because you develop a revenge body whilst exhausting your rage.

Anyway, I was walking back when I came across two clean cut, boy next door types who stopped me in the street. Assuming they wanted directions (this happens to me frequently because I have wide set eyes and look approachable) I was quite surprised when they asked me if I knew what a missionary was:

Me: Yeah y’all come to my house in America!

Them: Oh really, you live in America?

Me: (proceeds to tell them my address) Are you mormons?

Them: We are! Do you know much about us?

Me: Don’t you guys sometimes marry more than one person? Like what is it called… polygamy?

Them: That is actually a false rumor… are you religious?

Me: Not particularly

Them: Can we have your number?

At this point I am very flattered and give them my number so we can talk about Jesus at some point. They are going to try to convert me but jokes on them bc I am diabolical and will be trying to convert them to the dark side with tales of intrigue in my life. Winner take all.

To be continued.

Sincerely yours,

AFCG

Borrow My Doggy

One of the best memberships I have ever paid for is one called Borrow My Doggy. It is better than my NatGeo subscription and much better than tinder plus.

One time I was in a club and drunk me thought that tindering in Syria could be a good time. Spoiler alert: It is not and I think that they like guns there more than even in America. Fortunately when I woke up the next morning and realized my folly I had only signed up for a month of plus. So then I played in Rio and matched with Olympians and now get nudes on the reg from a certain diver. So win win I guess? #AleppoisBurning

Anyway, back to borrow my doggy. I went on three dog dates before finding The One. Lily is a three year old lap dog who I am slowly teaching to be a real dog. Today there was a real breakthrough; she went out without both a bow nor a coat (although her collar is still bright pink and rhinestoned) AND off leash. I also taught her a new command, “down” which could be useful. I dunno if her owner would be down with my insidious training but it is okay it does not hurt anyone.

Maybe Borrow My Doggy should sponsor my blog after that glowing review. Then I could add some cool gifs or something.

Sincerely,

AFCG

The C Word

One of my roommate’s favorite activities is to show me off to her various cohorts. I’m like that exotic new pet that you jab awake during dinner parties to parade around before dumping them back in their cage to be forgotten until you need another cute selfie. I’m pretty okay with that to be honest. I am funny (at least I keep myself entertained) bubbly, and rather unique. What I do take issue with is some of the words she chooses to describe me with; especially one in particular. The word I am talking about is “crazy.”

Yes, I am aware that I chose to call my blog, “Sincerely Yours, A Former Crazy Girl.” But I think that is similar to how black people can call themselves and each other the n word. I have been described as crazy by enough other people during a time period that I was struggling with my mental health that by being referred by it now in relation to something markedly not crazy belittles just how far I have come since then. Like, is it “crazy” to dance goofily to the music videos on top forty? Is it crazy not to be shy when you meet new people? I don’t think so. Not compared to real instability (not that you should refer to someone with a legitimate mental health issue as crazy either, they are sick.)

I suffered from a severe general anxiety disorder for many years. In high school I would casually sweat out any shirt I put on by midday and would have to always wear a thick sweatshirt over it. Despite being a top runner in my state I had a resting heart rate above 90 bpm and suffered palpitations from stress. This went untreated as my parents strongly believed in positive thinking. After a particularly drawn out and nasty breakup with exbae following an unfaithful relationship my nerves were completely shot. Cycling with severe depression I had had enough. If I could not get better I didn’t want to be alive. I was tired of the inevitable, pointless anxiety I felt. It was never social for me but just an underlying fearfulness and an inability to control my thoughts.

Because I couldn’t get medication on my parents’ health insurance without them vetoing it, I approached a doctor in the UK who immediately put me on a pretty significant dose of sertraline and diazepam. I know that medication does not work for everyone but I credit this doctor with saving my life. The drugs did not solve my depression and anxiety but took the edge off just enough that I was able to function and do things for myself that DID help it. For the first time in months I was able to get out of bed, structure my day, exercise, meet new people, and laugh. For the first time in my life I was able to redirect worrying and obsessive thoughts to something more productive.

Now over a year later I do not take diazepam and do not consider myself mentally unwell. in fact, I consider myself incredibly resilient and I love the girl I became. When I talk about that part of my life it is often in the third person. I did A LOT of things I wouldn’t do now but without that struggle I would not be who I am. I want to talk to you guys more about this but as we are just getting to know each other I figure we can wait.

Also, the hedgehog pooped on me while I wrote this. She is a sassy bitch.

Sincerely Yours,

AFCG

Postmodern Seduction

Me: Wanna bang at some point this weekend?

Him: Yeah for sure, tomorrow isn’t good but Saturday or Sunday night is

Him: You left your hat here btw

Me: And my jolly ranchers

Him: Yeah those as well so if you weren’t as straightforward you have an excuse now

Me: Sneaky

I’m back are you surprised?

I bet y’all were thinking that this was a one off, that like many bloggers before me I would not have the dedication to follow through. Well, you are right and wrong. Jokes on you because I am going to continue on my blog journey but the reason is I am sitting in the silent section of the library procrastinating. I am actually writing an article meant to be for the NYT or some shit like that but it is pretty boring and plus I have missed four doses of my happy pills due to the NHS being inefficient so I can’t stay calm and focused. I have a bit of a vendetta against the National Health Service because it is pretty basic but I know it is more of an underfunding issue. I’ve been speaking to some doctors and they agree; due to the lack of funding there is a lot of misdiagnoses and overprescribing. It’s a nice idea universal healthcare but unfortunately it’s not an easy solution.

I am going to be writing a lot about my romantic life because I don’t like to bother my friends about my inner dramas and escapades ALL the time so I thought I would make a little key so you understand what I am on about.

Exbae, 21- Exbae was my first boyfriend and we dated for maybe a year and a half in college. On paper he was excellent, an international athlete, student at a top university, and like super hot in an exotic way. Unfortunately he had some confidence issues and lacked a personality for the most part so we weren’t the best matched. He also thought I was fat (which I am not,) is potentially gay or asexual (the lady boy incident was a bit of a downer), and cheated sometimes. He was pretty good at hugs and tolerated me at my worst which is saying something. Sexual Prowess: C

Virgin Thief, 22- Hot MMA boy who stole my virginity. Ghosted me after I slept with him but we are on good terms now because I threw my shoe at him earlier. Goes to a mediocre uni and is A “big fish in a small pond.”Sexual Prowess: B

Psychopath bae, 20- Diagnosed w AsPD but is overall a pretty chill guy. Made his first million by 18 trading and financing questionable deals wink wink… has good taste in expensive cars and my favorite fwb because he doesn’t catch feelings and is kind of refreshingly mean and honest I suppose. Sexual Prowess: B

Asian bae, 34- A bit of a sensitive topic but a very attractive banker who exchanged lovely letters with me and took me on fun dates around Europe. After he flew over to visit me for a weekend I mistakenly thought that maybe he liked me back but when I told him my feelings after he said he was seeing someone else he LAUGHED at me. Probably the only person I have legitimately felt a connection with but you gotta move on. A bit pretentious and shallow with a taste for artists and models. Causes emotional pain. Sexual Prowess: A+

Hot Connor, 28- Hot Connor is really beautiful and has the most gorgeous sea green eyes but is also an overgrown fuck boy and likes nudes but never bothers to come actually see me or like, respond to my texts. It’s a very cat and mouse sitch but I think that if I can catch his missing dog I will win his heart. Rather juvenile crush I have for him. Works for his grandfathers megaconglomerate advertising firm. Sexual Prowess: A

Daddy, 30- Yes I have a sugar dad. He is a soft spoken retired banker who lives in London and enjoys food like me. Probably the nicest guy on this list but not the most chemistry tbh. Hoping to network through him to get a sweet job post graduation. Oh and he’s taking me on holiday next month woo. Sexual Prowess: B-

Gale, 22- Relatively new FWB, circumcised which is interesting with the largest dick I have ever had squeezed into my body. I am very happy to have an American bro friend because I was a bit of a loser with the boys in high school. Pretty chill and appreciates my forward approach. Sexual Prowess: A- (lower due to dick size)

Okay thanks for the read I gotta finish my paper now will write more later. Maybe about dogs.

Sincerely Yours,

AFCG

 

WELCOME

Okay so I told my various friends, fans, and lovers on Insta that I was either going to start a blog or an organic, fairtrade cocaine plantation. I try to be an honest soul so as my mother refuses to fund the initial startup costs of the latter, I am starting a blog. I will not tell any of them about this because although personal dets are being altered I am thinking that they might not be ready for the true colors of my life. And I promise you that it is all true. Well actually I am probably an unreliable narrator due to my unique perspective on life and occasional mental instabilities but maybe that makes my tales more honest. I don’t filter them with lofi or mayfair or juno.

Some fun facts about me:

I do have a top comment on HONY. If you don’t know what HONY is an acronym for you are even more culturally deprived than me and that is really saying something.

I was unfortunate enough to be stuck with a lifelong tinder ban. No that does not mean I can delete my account and make another. It means I can never swipe right AGAIN.

I have a very special friend who is a pygmy hedgehog. Cashmere had a very rough start to life and as such she is a right sassy twat. That is some British lingo I have learned. This is a separate fact but also I am living in exile from my homeland. In England. There is a beautiful store called M&S  and many people think orange is an acceptable skin tone.

I have been in love a total of 1.5 times. Buckle up because this is an entertaining aspect of my existence.

Not really that fun but I am a 21 year old student who identifies as a heterosexual female. I prefer the pronoun “Xe”

^this is a joke I am sorry if it is not PC enough for you, truly.

^ The truly part is a lie I do not care and lack social inhibition.

Some topics that will probably come up a lot include my mental state, romantic life, and general non opinions on going ons and books. The researchers said I was gifted so take it seriously!

Sincerely Yours,

AFCG

ps I think that the next big market crash will be in April 2017.

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